The border between failure and success

Children create all kinds of challenges to prove that they can get something that they or others think is impossible or to compete with their own age. This constant challenge is their way of developing, learning new skills and overcoming barriers to their own possibilities.

Unfortunately, for many of them, this need to submit themselves to the challenges disappears as they grow.

There are a number of reasons why we are not able to face our adult challenges. Our own beliefs often lead to the thought that we do not have the capacity to succeed. In addition, we are too often limited by what the people around us believe.Lack of trust from family, friends and colleagues can create barriers to challenges and success. This lack of confidence results in „a fear of failure,” which often exceeds our desire for success.It is clear that in order to push our limits beyond our own and others’ expectations of ourselves, we must have the vision of self-provocation by going outside the comfort zone. No one has ever achieved anything extraordinary lying on the couch.

Success is never guaranteed, if it were, it would not be a challenge. Likewise, success does not occur at random. Getting success when you take on a major challenge is not like guessing lottery numbers. you can not rely on luck to succeed, if you do that you will probably be as successful as playing the lottery.

Acompanied by a lot of work, achieving success is based only on a meticulous and structured process at the base of which are important steps on the road of success.

Do not forget, the best way to anticipate success is to create it.

But it is likely that a challenge will not be achieved for a whole lot of reasons and the first important step on the road to success is to make sure we are realistic. One of the main reasons for failure is to set unrealistic, untouchable goals. The most important step on the road to success is most likely to make sure that you evaluate the challenge requirements before dedicating them.

In my opinion it is necessary to answer these 3 questions before investing resurses into a challenge:

1.Is this challenge important to me?

2. Do I have the time to devote myself to planning, preparing and completing the challenge?

3. Do I have the resources to be successful?

One of the most common mistakes I see is when people hide from challenges for fear of failure. The possibility that a project can not succeed is often seen as a reason not to tell anyone. The fear of being discouraged if you talk to others about the challenge can make you stop telling anyone, nothing.

My advice is to adopt the opposite position but to carefully select the people you choose to tell them. Avoid giving them information about what you want to do to those who have a negative outlook on life or those who can hardly wait to criticize you.

You better choose to tell your family, friends and colleagues who have a positive outlook on your life and you can be more secure about the support you will get. It’s great when someone praises you for taking the challenge or asks you how it works.

To succeed, your desire to succeed must be greater than fear of failure.